It doesn't seem that long ago, that time when everything was
just so dark. I had held on to the bitter for so long, and it was so easy to
lash out at others about everything. I was so hurt, and so bitter about just
everything. No one could understand the way the dark memories mixed with the
light ones. The way we just got sick of talking about it all. The way
everything could be haunting- pictures, smells, words. All of it could just
take me back in a second. I was bitter that I knew those feelings. I had taken
on this crusade against life. Against the questions and comments. Against the
Dr’s. Against the odds. Sometimes, even against my husband. I wouldn't say I
was depressed. I was just MAD. And honestly, sometimes I still get mad.
When I was feeling so defeated by our experience and
memories, it wasn't hard to just imagine moving forward with life, and moving
on. Walking away from the hope, the plans, and the dreams. There was a time
when I wanted to make new dreams. To just put all of our conversations about
our family and our plans behind us and just strive to be happy. To get past the
bitter and just be a happy little family of 3. It wasn't hard to roll on the
high of weight loss and just imagine being able to remain healthy and never
know what “High Risk” would mean for us, to just let D complete our family
and begin to heal and walk away from the nightmares. Make new ones with the
toddler, and now little boy we have.
Curiosity always gets the best of people, and they always
ask. Will we try again? Do we want more kids? Well of course we want them. But
we just hadn't decided if we wanted to try it all over again.
There was a time, when I couldn't imagine ever signing up
for pregnancy again. I couldn't wouldn't sign up for that risk again.
But over time, hope began to seep in. It took time, a lot of
time. I needed to see others overcome what we had gone through. Needed to see
D grow, and thrive and just become this amazing little person we knew he
would be. To defy the odds. We needed to believe we could continue to defy the
odds.
D has given us back that hope. That desire to act on
our dreams of growing our family, and the belief that with the right medical
team, plan of action and most importantly, Faith, we can heal. We can grow. We
can hope.
I’m hopeful. Excited to move forward. To try again. To grow.
To Heal.
Mr. Bee and I have decided to try again. We have an
appointment with a high risk specialist this week to see what this means for
us. What our plans are. What our risks are. Hopefully, we can continue just
moving forward.